After I received the haircut, I posted this photo on my blog of my two friends and me having a wonderful time together!
As you can see, the photo displays my new haircut! Which I LOVE! I knew that some people would probably tell me they didn't think it was as feminine as my longer hair and I was totally prepared for that! I mean, it is a radical transformation! But after I had it done, I had a lot of people tell me they loved it! Some said they doubted it would look good, but after seeing me actually go through with it, they ate their words and told me they thought it was lovely and adorable!
So after receiving the following response, you can imagine my surprise... especially if you have read my blog for any length of time.
I am going to address the comment in this blog post, because I think it will allow me to be more cautious in addressing this in a loving manner and to maintain a Gospel mindset regarding something rather serious when it comes to understanding salvation.
"Shelby, may I kindly ask, what happened to you? I am seriously concerned. What possesses a beautiful girl like you to cut nearly all her hair off? Shelby, this is not the kind of thing a Christian girl does.
I know you've been through some hard trials, but that doesn't mean it's time to start looking and acting like the world or, more likely in your case, to give up entirely. It's time to fall back on your Savior and to realize that He may be your ONLY friend, but that's ok, because Jesus is the ONLY friend you need. Don't turn away from Scripture & Biblical womanhood just because someone has wronged you. Turn to Christ, turn to God's Word and allow them to bring healing to your heart.
From a concerned sister in Christ, please be careful. Remember it only takes a little sin to drag us down completely.
Feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to.
When I first decided to address this, I was going to go paragraph by paragraph and defend myself and my positions. But I have changed my mind...
I think there is just one thing I want to really say and that is that I am sorry this young lady is so confused and I will truly pray for her.
I didn't cut my hair because I want to look like the world, or because I am secretly rebelling! I cut my hair because I thought it would be a flattering hairstyle for me! I am *always* changing up my hair! Whether it be adding more layers, dying it or just having it cut different ways. This was more radical, sure! But I had been thinking about it for a long time and new that it would look very feminine on me. I had the support of my family, friends, best friends and acquaintances. It wasn't a decision made on a whim and it certainly wasn't one made in an effort to look more worldly!! Honestly, long hair is what most worldly super models have anyhow! So it wasn't an issue of carnality. ;) It was an issue of "I want to do something different and this haircut would work on me and will be an expression of my style of femininity."
Plain and simple.
But the larger issue that concerns me is this, why does this commenter think that a haircut is demonstrative of an unregenerate heart?
Which presents this question...
What action does one have to take to have a regenerate heart?
My answer to that is simply *nothing*.
Jesus Christ shed His blood on the cross to pay for my sins, and to say that there is something I need to do in order to maintain His love, would be blasphemous to His death and resurrection.
Just because I am a firm believer in the fact that my life belongs to the God in Heaven above and that His word is true when He says that "nothing can separate me from the love of Christ", doesn't mean I am falling away from Him. Yes I have experienced a great deal of pain, but I wouldn't trade it for the world, because it is what has driven me into the arms of my Savior so often, that it is the place I call home more than any other.
That is what matters.
It wouldn't have made a difference if I had dyed my hair kelly green and cobalt blue! Although, I wouldn't do that because I don't think it is attractive, it still doesn't mean that someone who does do that isn't saved. I mean sure, it is a symbol of rebellion in our culture, so it really doesn't reflect a Gospel message in the most expedient manner, but it doesn't ever EVER mean that someone isn't a Christian, for pity's sake.
So I will end with this -- I genuinely hope that this young lady and any other human being who feels that someone can fall from grace because of the hair cut they decide to go with, will be convicted and understand that God doesn't need our filthy works. God doesn't need us to be something in order for His righteousness to be fulfilled.
Anyone whose sin has been atoned for by the blood of Jesus, belongs to Him and when God looks at any of His redeemed children, He sees His precious Son, Jesus Christ.
Let us always cling to our Savior and have our hearts softened by the tender love of the Gospel of our Beloved Savior.
"But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ -- by grace you have been saved -- and raised us up with and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages He might show the immeasurable riches of His grace in kindness towards us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not you own doing; it is the gift o God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast." -Ephesians 2:4-9